A 64-year-old nurse from Roanoke, Virginia, thought she was calling in to talk about paying off her mortgage. Instead, her situation turned into a raw conversation about marriage, money and resentment.
On an episode of “The Ramsey Show,” she said she earns about $115,000 a year and has built a real estate portfolio on the side. She owns two rental properties worth about $200,000 combined, owes only about $12,000 on one and roughly $62,000 on the other, and is aggressively paying them down.
Her husband, also 64, earns about $45,000. They still owe $180,000 on their home, which is worth roughly $400,000. She wants the house paid off before retirement. He doesn’t.
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The deeper problem wasn’t the mortgage. It was how they’ve handled money for nearly three decades.
They keep separate accounts, but share a household account for bills and groceries, and another for major repairs. Beyond that, everything is split. She has about $175,000 in her 401(k). He has no retirement savings.
Even the way she described things caught personal finance expert Dave Ramsey‘s attention: “my rental properties,” “my retirement,” “he doesn’t participate.”
Co-host John Delony was frank. “That’s not a marriage,” he said. “That’s a couple of dudes who are roommates.”
The nurse explained that when she bought her first rental, her husband “did not want any part of it.” She moved forward anyway. She later bought another home to help her daughter-in-law, who had cancer and was living in a difficult situation. Again, he wasn’t involved.
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At one point, Ramsey compared the dynamic to living with “your little brother who had a mental disability” and doing everything in spite of him. The comment underscored how disconnected he believes the marriage has become.
Her husband works, comes home and plays golf when he can. That’s about it. There’s no shared long-term plan.
“This is not a finance problem,” Linda said. “This is a marriage problem.”
Delony told her she faces a hard choice. She can accept that “this is the life that I walked into” and keep structuring her finances around a disengaged spouse. Or she can “cause a ruckus” and insist on counseling and real partnership.